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LOVE IS GRANTING ANOTHER THE SPACE TO BE THE WAY THEY ARE AND THE
WAY THEY AREN'T SO THEY CAN CHANGE IF THEY WANT TO AND THEY DON'T
HAVE TO.
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THE TRUTH BELIEVED IS A LIE.
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WHEN YOU'RE UP TO YOUR ASS IN ALLIGATORS, IT'S HARD TO REMEMBER
YOUR INITIAL OBJECTIVE WAS TO DRAIN THE SWAMP.
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IF YOU KEEP SAYING IT THE WAY IT REALLY IS, EVENTUALLY YOUR WORD
IS LAW IN THE UNIVERSE.
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INTERESTING PEOPLE ARE INTERESTED.
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EXPERIENCE IS MERELY EVIDENCE I AM HERE.
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HAPPINESS IS A FUNCTION OF ACCEPTING WHAT IS.
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A TRANSFORMED INDIVIDUAL DEMANDS TRANSFORMED RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE
ONLY IN SUCH A CONTEXT CAN HE OR SHE NATURALLY EXPRESS A
TRANSFORMED INDIVIDUALITY.
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WHAT I HAVE IS A PLACE TO STAND. NOT THE RIGHT PLACE, FOR I DO NOT
PRETEND TO KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT EVEN FOR MYSELF, LET ALONE OTHERS,
BUT A PLACE I AM WILLING TO TRY OUT TO SEE IF IT LEAVES ME AS A
CLEARING WHERE THE TRUTH CAN MORE POWERFULLY GO TO WORK.
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WHAT WE ARE ENGAGED IN CREATING IS THE OPPORTUNITY FOR PEOPLE TO
PARTICIPATE IN THE TRANSFORMATION OF PEOPLES' LIVES AND OF LIFE
ITSELF. THIS CONTEXT OF TRANSFORMATION IS A CONTEXT OF FREEDOM AND
OPPORTUNITY, OF EMPOWERMENT AND HUMAN JOY, OF CONTRIBUTION AND OF
PARTICIPATION. PARTICIPATION IN THIS TRANSFORMATION IS, FOR ME,
THE FULLEST EXPRESSION OF BEING.
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RESPONSIBILITY BEGINS WITH THE WILLINGNESS TO BE CAUSE IN THE
MATTER OF ONE'S LIFE. ULTIMATELY, IT IS A CONTEXT FROM WHICH ONE
CHOOSES TO LIVE. RESPONSIBILITY IS NOT BURDEN, FAULT, PRAISE,
BLAME, CREDIT, SHAME OR GUILT. IN RESPONSIBILITY, THERE IS NO
EVALUATION OF GOOD OR BAD, RIGHT OR WRONG. THERE IS SIMPLY WHAT'S
SO, AND YOUR STAND. BEING RESPONSIBLE STARTS WITH THE WILLINGNESS
TO DEAL WITH A SITUATION FROM THE VIEW OF LIFE THAT YOU ARE THE
GENERATOR OF WHAT YOU DO, WHAT YOU HAVE AND WHAT YOU ARE. THAT IS
NOT THE TRUTH. IT IS A PLACE TO STAND. NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU
RESPONSIBLE, NOR CAN YOU IMPOSE RESPONSIBILITY ON ANOTHER. IT IS A
GRACE YOU GIVE YOURSELF - AN EMPOWERING CONTEXT THAT LEAVES YOU
WITH A SAY IN THE MATTER OF LIFE.
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YOU AND I WANT OUR LIVES TO MATTER. WE WANT OUR LIVES TO MAKE A
REAL DIFFERENCE, TO BE OF GENUINE CONSEQUENCE IN THE WORLD. WE
KNOW THAT THERE IS NO SATISFACTION IN MERELY GOING THROUGH THE
MOTIONS, EVEN IF THOSE MOTIONS MAKE US SUCCESSFUL, OR EVEN IF WE
HAVE ARRANGED TO MAKE THOSE MOTIONS PLEASANT. WE WANT TO KNOW WE
HAVE MADE SOME IMPACT ON THE WORLD. IN FACT, YOU AND I WANT TO
CONTRIBUTE TO THE QUALITY OF LIFE. WE WANT TO MAKE THE WORLD WORK.
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ONE CREATES FROM NOTHING. IF YOU TRY TO CREATE FROM SOMETHING
YOU'RE JUST CHANGING SOMETHING. SO IN ORDER TO CREATE SOMETHING
YOU FIRST HAVE TO BE ABLE TO CREATE NOTHING. TO MAKE SURE A PERSON
DOESN'T FIND OUT WHO HE IS, CONVINCE HIM THAT HE CAN'T REALLY MAKE
ANYTHING DISAPPEAR. ALL THAT'S LEFT THEN IS TO RESIST, RESIST,
SOLVE, FIX, HELP OR CHANGE THINGS. THAT'S TRYING TO MAKE SOMETHING
OUT OF SOMETHING.
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THE WAY TO HANDLE A MONSTER IS TO GIVE IT LOTS OF SPACE.
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YOUR LIFE WORKS TO THE DEGREE YOU KEEP YOUR AGREEMENTS.
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THERE ISN'T ANYBODY WHO SHOWS UP WITH TENNIS SHOES AND A TENNIS
RACQUET WHO CAN'T PLAY TENNIS AT THE LEVEL OF SELF EXPRESSION.
THEY MAY NOT PLAY AT THE LEVEL OF CHAMPION BUT THERE ISN'T ANYBODY
WHO CAN'T PLAY AT THE LEVEL OF SELF EXPRESSION.
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YOU CAN START OFF ANYWHERE YOU LIKE AS LONG AS WHERE YOU END UP IS
LEAVING EVERYBODY WITH MORE POWER.
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YOUR LIFE AND MY LIFE HAVE TURNED OUT, AND ONCE YOU GET THAT, LIFE
GOES ON FROM A POSITION OF HAVING TURNED OUT. THAT'S CALLED
PLAYING THE GAME FROM WIN.
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HEROES ARE ORDINARY MEN AND WOMEN WHO DARE TO SEE AND MEET THE
CALL OF A POSSIBILITY BIGGER THAN THEMSELVES. BREAKTHROUGHS ARE
CREATED BY SUCH HEROES, BY MEN AND WOMEN WHO WILL STAND FOR THE
RESULT WHILE IT IS ONLY A POSSIBILITY - PEOPLE WHO WILL ACT TO
MAKE POSSIBILITY REAL.
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WHERE ARE YOU GOING TO GO TO FIND THE OPPORTUNITY FOR THE NEW ERA
WHEN WHO YOU HAVE BEEN BEING IS INSUFFICIENT FOR YOUR LIFE?
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WHAT HAPPENED TO ME ON THE GOLDEN GATE BRIDGE WAS I REALIZED I
KNEW NOTHING. EVERYTHING I THOUGHT I KNEW I ONLY KNEW "IN ORDER
TO".
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BUILDING A STRATEGY TO AVOID THE ALMOST CERTAIN FUTURE BINDS YOU
AS MUCH TO THE ALMOST CERTAIN FUTURE AS COMMITTING TO IT.
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I WANT YOU TO SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE FROM LIVING YOUR LIFE TO
BEING AN ACTOR PLAYING THE LEAD ROLE IN A PLAY CALLED YOUR LIFE.
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MY NOTION ABOUT SERVICE IS THAT SERVICE IS ACTUALLY THAT KIND OF
RELATIONSHIP IN WHICH YOU HAVE A COMMITMENT TO THE PERSON. NOW I
DON'T MEAN TO THE PERSON'S BODY OR TO THE PERSON'S PERSONALITY OR
TO THE PERSON'S STOMACH OR TO THE PERSON'S ALMOST ANYTHING. WHAT I
MEAN IN FACT IS THAT FOR ME WHAT SERVICE IS ABOUT IS BEING
COMMITTED TO THE OTHER BEING, TO THE OTHER PERSON SPIRITUALLY, TO
WHO THE PERSON IS. NOW THE PROBLEM WITH THAT IS THAT TO THE DEGREE
THAT YOU ARE IN FACT COMMITTED TO THE OTHER PERSON YOU ARE ONLY AS
VALUABLE AS HOW YOU CAN DEAL WITH THE OTHER PERSON'S STUFF, THEIR
EVIDENCE, THEIR MANIFESTATION, AND THAT'S WHAT SERVICE IS ALL
ABOUT. SERVICE IS ABOUT KNOWING WHO THE OTHER PERSON IS, AND BEING
ABLE TO TOLERATE GIVING SPACE TO THEIR GARBAGE. WHAT MOST PEOPLE
DO IS TO GIVE SPACE TO PEOPLE'S QUALITY AND DEAL WITH THEIR
GARBAGE. ACTUALLY, YOU SHOULD DO IT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. DEAL
WITH WHO THEY ARE AND GIVE SPACE TO THEIR GARBAGE. KEEP
INTERACTING WITH THEM AS IF THEY WERE GOD. AND EVERY TIME YOU GET
GARBAGE FROM THEM, GIVE SPACE TO THE GARBAGE AND GO BACK AND
INTERACT WITH THEM AS IF THEY WERE GOD.
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PEOPLE PARTICIPATE IN THIS WORK BECAUSE OF THE VALUE THEY
EXPERIENCE IN THEIR LIVES UNTIL THEIR LIVES OUTSIDE OF THEIR
PARTICIPATION BECOMES MORE IMPORTANT TO THEM THAN FOCUSING ON
GROWTH, OR THEIR LIVES BECOME SO DEMANDING THEY DON'T HAVE THE
TIME TO PARTICIPATE. IT IS TOTALLY APPROPRIATE FOR PEOPLE TO STOP
PARTICIPATING AT SOME POINT, AND FOCUS ON GETTING ON WITH THEIR
LIVES AND INTERESTS. A NUMBER OF STUDIES ON GRADUATES DEMONSTRATE
THE VALUE THEY RECEIVED KEEPS ON BEING OF VALUE IN THEIR LIVES
EVEN AFTER THEY STOP PARTICIPATING, AND THAT THEY CONTINUE TO GROW
ON THE FOUNDATION THAT THEY CREATED FOR THEMSELVES OUT OF THEIR
PARTICIPATION.
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YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO LOOKING FOR LOVE WHEN IT IS WHERE YOU COME
FROM.
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WE ALL HAVE RELATIONSHIPS, AND IF YOU CAN COMPLETE YOUR
RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARENTS, YOU CAN HAVE INCREDIBLE
RELATIONSHIPS, MAGICAL RELATIONSHIPS, MIRACULOUS RELATIONSHIPS.
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WHAT YOU RESIST PERSISTS.
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IN THIS CONVERSATION WE DISCOVER ANOTHER POSSIBILITY: LIVING IN A
WAY, NOW, MOMENT TO MOMENT, THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE TO LIFE. WE
DISCOVER THAT AS HUMAN BEINGS WE CAN LIVE IN A POSSIBILITY INSTEAD
OF IN WHAT WE HAVE INHERITED, THAT INSTEAD OF JUST BEING A HUMAN
BEING BECAUSE WE WERE BORN THAT WAY, WE CAN DECLARE THE
POSSIBILITY OF BEING FOR HUMAN BEINGS. THIS IS THE WORK OF
TRANSFORMATION: BRINGING FORTH A BREAKTHROUGH IN THE POSSIBILITY
OF BEING HUMAN. WHAT WE CREATE TOGETHER IS A RELATIONSHIP IN
WHICH OUR WORK CAN SHOW UP AS MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN PEOPLE'S
LIVES. I WELCOME THE UNPRECEDENTED OPPORTUNITY FOR US TO WORK
GLOBALLY ON THAT WHICH CONCERNS US ALL AS HUMAN BEINGS.
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DISTINCTIONS HAVE A SHORT HALF LIFE, AND NEED TO BE RECREATED FROM
TIME TO TIME.
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MASTERY IS NOT ABOUT BEING IN AN AESTHETIC PLACE OF LOVE AND
KINDNESS. THAT'S JUST THE BEGINNING OF MASTERY. MASTERY IS ABOUT
HAVING THE WORLD SHOWING UP AS IT IS. AND 'I' IS JUST ANOTHER
PIECE IN THE WORLD.
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IT'S MUCH EASIER TO RIDE THE HORSE IN THE DIRECTION HE'S GOING.
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THE ONE THING I'M CLEAR ABOUT IS EVERYONE IS CAPABLE OF BEING
GREAT. NOT COMPARED TO SOMEONE ELSE. I MEAN GREAT FOR YOURSELF.
I'M COMMITTED TO YOU REALIZING YOU'RE GREAT.
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WHO YOU MEAN WHEN YOU SAY "I" IS NOT YOU. IT'S JUST SOMETHING THAT
SHOWS UP FOR YOU.
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MASTERY IS WHEN WHAT'S THERE IS ALL THAT'S THERE.
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I IS NOT ME. IT'S SIMPLY SOMETHING THAT SHOWS UP FOR ME. BE OPEN
TO THE POSSIBILITY OF BEING WITH THIS THING CALLED "I" SO YOU'RE
MOVED TO TEARS BY IT. YOU CAN'T MASTER LIFE UNTIL YOU MASTER I.
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THE PATHWAY TO HAVING IS NOT WANTING. IF YOU WANT SOMETHING, YOU
NEED TO HAVE A DIFFERENT RELATIONSHIP WITH IT OTHER THAN WANTING
IT IN ORDER TO HAVE IT.
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HERE IS WHERE IT IS. NOW IS WHEN IT IS. YOU ARE WHAT IT IS.
CELEBRATE!
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WHAT WE WANT TO GET TO IS TO HAVE THE AESTHETIC EXPERIENCE OF
LOVE, KINDNESS, AND JOY BECOME ORDINARY.
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THE GATES TO THE TEMPLE OF TRUTH ARE GUARDED BY TWO DRAGONS:
PARADOX AND CONFUSION.
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WHAT I MEAN BY 'PATTERNED BEHAVIOR' IS ONE'S HABITUAL WAY OF
REPRESENTING ONESELF, OFTEN THOUGHT OF AS 'JUST THE WAY I AM'.
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WHILE NO ONE WANTS TO BE THE FIRST TO SAY IT, WHO EACH OF US IS
AND THE FUNDAMENTAL CHOICES EACH OF US MAKES IN LIFE SEEM TO
MATTER VERY LITTLE. EVEN ACTS OF GREAT COURAGE AND INTELLIGENCE,
WHILE ADMIRABLE AND EVEN INSPIRING, EXIST IN SHARP CONTRAST TO THE
APPARENT UNWORKABILITY OF THE WORLD AT LARGE. OUR GREATEST
TECHNICAL ACHIEVEMENT, WALKING ON THE MOON, WHILE GALVANIZING THE
WORLD FOR A MOMENT, DID NOT FUNDAMENTALLY ALTER PEOPLE'S
EXPERIENCE OF THEIR ABILITY TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THEIR LIVES
AND IN THE WORLD. SOMETIME AROUND NOW - IT MAY HAVE HAPPENED FIVE
YEARS AGO OR FIFTY YEARS AGO - BUT SOMETIME AROUND NOW, THE RULES
FOR LIVING SUCCESSFULLY ON EARTH SHIFTED, AND AN OPPORTUNITY,
UNSEEN BEFORE, BEGAN TO REVEAL ITSELF. THIS OPPORTUNITY IS A
CONTEXT - A PARTICULAR SPACE OR PARADIGM, A WAY OF BEING - WHICH
UNEXPECTEDLY CREATES THE POSSIBILITY FOR A PERSON'S LIFE TO TRULY
MAKE A DIFFERENCE. IN THIS CONTEXT, THE WAY EACH OF US ANSWERS THE
QUESTION 'WHAT IS MY LIFE REALLY GOING TO BE ABOUT?' CAN LITERALLY
ALTER THE COURSE OF HUMANITY. THE POSSIBILITY TO CREATE THE
CONTEXT IN WHICH PEOPLE'S LIVES REALLY MATTER IS UNDOUBTEDLY THE
MOST PROFOUND OPPORTUNITY AVAILABLE TO ANYONE, EVER.
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YOU AND I GO THROUGH LIFE, AND YOU'D BE SURPRISED HOW MUCH OF THE
TIME IN LIFE THE QUESTION "HOW CAN I LIVE AND HAVE INTEGRITY AT
THE SAME TIME?" IS PRESENT. IT'S VERY DIFFICULT FOR PEOPLE TO LIVE
WITH INTEGRITY. USUALLY THERE SEEMS TO BE A CONFLICT BETWEEN
INTEGRITY AND LIVING. THE FACT IS YOU GIVE UP YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU
COMPROMISE INTEGRITY.
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