I really get when you tell me "I'm working on myself", it's like
breathing for you. It's there in the background of your entire life,
unquestioned, and totally accepted as just
what's so,
with the result that how life shows up for you is congruent with "I'm
working on myself" and incongruent with "I'm OK".
There's nothing to change. There is nothing to fix, and
nothing is wrong.
If "I'm working on myself" is there like an inner dialog for you, then
it's there, and so what! Let it be there. Don't pander to it. Thank it
for sharing, and don't add to it.
What's interesting is we don't say we can change or stop "I'm working
on myself", and nor do we say we can fix it, and nor do we promise you
will ever get to the point in life where you've completed the work your
inner dialog says you're doing on yourself.
Also, we say your inner dialog saying "I'm working on myself" being
there doesn't mean anything is wrong. So where, then, is the power to
disappear ie to end the chatter "I'm working on myself" if we don't
change it, fix it, or make it right?
The real power comes from your naked sharing of
what's so
for you. There's no power in the jabbering of "I'm working on myself
and the reason why I feel blah blah blah is that blah blah blah
happened and then blah blah blah happened and now I'm blah blah blah so
I'm working on myself and blah blah blah."
"Cows go 'moo moo', pigs go 'oink oink', chickens go 'cheep cheep', and
human beings go 'blah blah blah'!" says Randy McNamara, my good friend
and my personal coach.
Old MacDonald and Randy are both wise, wise men.
When you share
what's so,
you become its author rather than its victim. In that is the mastery,
and in that, no work is required on yourself because you're already
whole and complete, just the way you are, and just the way you aren't.